Honesty Really is the Best Policy As in all aspects of life, honesty is the best policy when it comes to online dating. When joining an online dating service, you are looking for that guy or girl that you certainly want to like, or even grow to love - being honest from the start will help you avoid many of the pitfalls that so many online daters face. That guy or girl is looking for someone (assuming this is not just a hookup) that has great qualities - trust trumps almost all other qualities (yes guys, even looks). So be completely honest in what you are looking for, what you look like, and what you do for a living…hey., be honest with yourself! This certainly applies to the initial writing of your online profile…and continue being honest from there on out. The best way to begin writing your profile is to look your past relationships. What was wrong? More importantly, what was right? What things made you really connect with that last person? And of course, what didn’t? Take the time to think about these things and include them in your profile. Once again…especially in this are - looks - be honest. If you aren’t 6’2” with a solid six-pack(the one in the fridge doesn’t count), don’t describe yourself that way. If you are a construction worker, don’t claim to be a doctor. Don’t lie about your age - most people can tell…especially when you start talking about how your first saw Elvis on the Ed Sullivan show. The idea here is to filter out the wrong people and find the right people…being honest is really the only way that you are going to accomplish this. Imagine if you lied online, met the person, fell in love…and then some of your lies are uncovered…this can be a very painful situation for all involved. Avoid this! For more tips on online dating, please visit Talking 101. If you are interested in online dating for the long term, or just how to talk to the opposite sex so you can get the date, we have useful information that you can use.